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Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Lets get talking: Should a man know his girl/wife's past?

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Lets get talking: Should a man know his girl/wife's past?
Dec 11th 2012, 21:44


Its been a while I wrote something on the lets get talking column. The lets get talking column is where I get to write my opinion on a particular subject, where you the reader get to pick one or two things to think about. Today, I would like you to take a second and ask yourself, would you tell your partner your past? the James, John, Mike, Okoro, Okoronkwo, Okore, Okeke and dont forget Ben, Richard, Samson that you have slept with?


For men, it might be easy but for women naaaah not quite as much. Women think very differently from men. For instance, if a man tells a woman his ugly past, she would feel an urge to guild, protect and guard him with utmost care. But for men, the first thing he would think about is her capability of doing the same thing to him. So in this case, is it best to leave things as they are and wait for him to hear it from outside? then if he asks you, you then have to open up and tell the whole truth. Yes, everyone has a skeleton in his cupboard but what if you have a whole grave yard in your closet? This is where living a good life from your youthful days become something you desperately wish for.




There was this  nollywood movie few years ago. She was a LovePeddler, but this guy was hell bent on marrying her. When his junior brother came back from jand and still told him that the girl is no good, he still maintained that he would marry her. However, the bubble busted when the brother revealed that, the girl not only was a LovePeddler, but that she also did it with a white man dog while back in school then. That was too much for the lover boy, even though the girl hide that bit about her past from the guy.

As far as the truth goes, it all depends on the type of person you are dealing with, some people are civilized and can handle core plain truth, while others have a traditional-closed-locked up-village-church mind and cant stand the truth.  If I were to be a man, I would like to know what my girl friend or wife did while going through some phases in life, because this is the first step of effective communication, rather than a wicked-idiotic-fool coming in the future to miss up my relationship. 


Truth be told, When you are not the first in your girl's life, you may want to know the details just to get to know her better, human ideology. If she had a not-so-impressive kind of past, you may begin to think twice. When you are the girl's first, the matter is even worse. If for instance you two get married, you may find yourself worrying about who else she may have been with after you. Honestly, marriage, relationships etc are damn complex! You need 2 things: Maturity and God's grace. The truth is society expects higher moral standards from women. Its not fair but that just how it is. 

I believe that what a woman did in her past life prior to meeting you is not admissible to the court of love. Both parties must come clean before marriage, if neither bothered before marriage MOVE ON together and forget the past. As a man, if you cant handle the truth, respect yourself and don't ask. In every relationship there must be openness and sincerity on both sides to build trust in the relationship because if there is no trust then its not worth it. That been said, if you are not asked, shut up! but if you are asked, make sure to study your partner well before dropping the bombshell. I don talk my own, make I go sleep. 




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