Dear Aunty, I have a matured working class widow with 2 children. I started the relationship with her recently but she likes money too much; she is too demanding. What do I do? She knows I'm building and it is capital intensive. Agreed, that does not stop me from caring but her salary is more than enough to sustain her. – A.U.
Dear A.U, it is typical of women to demand money from a guy who doesn't look like he's going to marry them. I don't know what's running through your girlfriend's heart, but if you're married and you're just keeping her for the fun of it, she may want to get all she could get from you while it lasts. Consciously or unconsciously, she is in competition with your wife and she knows that madam gets money from you, so why shouldn't she get too? After all, she gives all the 'benefits' you derive from your wife and maybe even more.
She will keep demanding money from you if she feels insecure in this relationship until you sit her down and have a very honest discussion with her about her life and those of her children. She's a widow with vivid memories of the recent past with another man – good or bad memories or both. She needs a man who will love her and reassure her about the future. The emotions she's feeling may be a lot more than the money she's demanding for, so handle her with care. Once she's sure of where she stands with you, it is either she begins to support you by not giving you hassles or she starts asking for more. That will depend on whether marriage is in the horizon or not.
