When planning for your wedding, get the groom involved because he may be more competent than you think ……. it's his big day too!
Some people are happily married while others get married happily. The difference is the responsibilities the latter share during the planning period. Couples who plan their weddings together will learn to communicate, tolerate and compromise with each other every step of the way and such couples will also learn to appreciate and enjoy their individual differences too. Many women grow up fantasizing about their wedding day. It is understandable if the bride cares more about the details; perhaps it is the reason why many people assume that wedding is about the 'bride' while the groom is left out of the details and sometimes the responsibilities too. A wedding is the beginning of a marriage; it is a big day for the two people involved.
Obsession
It is important that prospective couples share the pains and gains of planning a successful wedding day. When things get tough they can have each other's shoulders to lean on too.
A bride may become overwhelmed through fantasies, influence and enormous details at her disposal at this time. We call it obsession but she thinks it's her responsibility and believes that all the perfection lies on her shoulders too. On the other hand, she is likely to become disengaged from her spouse's world, forgetting that he also has his needs and may have an interest in the wedding details if accorded due consideration. As the run up to the day, the role will become very tedious for the bride and perhaps leave her feeling frustrated and cranky in the end.
Keeping her in check
It is unfair to assume that a groom is not competent enough to plan an unforgettable wedding experience. His involvement will make a positive impact in terms of cutting cost, spending realistically and most importantly keeping his bride in check when fantasies sets in.
Most brides prefer to shut their spouse out of money matters as they are often caught between choices either to save or splurge a little. There ios the tendency to want to spend unrealistically on details she loves while her practical groom will definitely want her to save rather than splurge. He will certainly be the best money manager in planning the big day.
Totally compatible
A bride is usually caught between her own choices and those ideas proposed by family members and friends who have been there and done it! She may prefer to take her 100 nearest and dearest guests to a nice resort for an unforgettable experience but finds out that other people are already feeling devastated. A couple who plan together, sharing a similar vision and fideas, is more likely to have a 'written map' of a dream wedding scenario well communicated to the families involved. The families should in turn be able to understand and respect their wishes without prejudice or sentiments.
