From a male LIB reader
I am 5 months old into marital life and it has been a smooth journey so far but there can never be a perfect relationship as we all know. What has been baffling me in this marriage so far is that whenever there is a misunderstanding between me and my wife, the next thing is to call her mum who then talks to me on the issue. Though she has never been biased in settling issues between us whenever there is an issue she is been involved with by her daughter.
The bottom line is that it is a situation I never liked and I have tried several times to put a halt into this but she never yielded to my concerns on involving her mum in our marital issues whenever there is a case to settle. Continue...
For an example, if I decide not to attend a church service on a Sunday maybe because I am tired for that matter, the next thing is for her to call her mum to report me that I've refused to attend a Sunday service. And before I know it, her mum is calling to ask why I have decided not to go church. Though she never authorized me forcefully to go to church on such occasion but do persuade me or even plead atimes.
If she has been calling my mum the way she calls her mum into our issues, maybe it would have been a different case entirely. There is nothing that happens in our marriage that her mum doesn't know about. And if there is an argument, she also threatens to call her mum immediately and it would be done unrepentantly.
I am sick and tired of these occurrences and I believe the way things are going, it could lead to a situation that might cause the unexpected. I love and care about my marriage but not with my mother in law involvement irrespective of her motherly role. I never involved my parents in our marital issues so I believe she should not involve hers too. What do you think I can do because I am loosing it already.
Originally posted via Linda Ikeji Dear LIB readers: How can I make my wife and mother-in-law stop?»
